Understanding your core values can help you get things done
Everyone has tasks that they don’t want to do. Especially when building a business is involved.
When I first started learning about manifestation and co-creation, I figured, “Aha! This is the easy way to get things done! This is the way to do only the things that I want to do when I want to do them, which means I’ll never have to do anything I don’t want to do.”
However, I quickly learned that this was not the case. In building a business, there will always be tasks that you don’t want to do, even when you try to “follow your bliss” and “do what makes you happy.”
Because no matter what, there will always be things that are unfamiliar and new, and as human beings, we naturally (and physiologically) are averse to doing those things. And without ever doing new things, we don’t grow; if we don’t grow, neither does our business. At least not to where we want to see it grow.
So the question is, “How can we do new things that don’t naturally feel good in order to grow ourselves and our business…but still feel good while doing them?”
Keep reading to learn one of the best ways that I’ve found to do just this.
Step 1: Write down the task that you don’t want to do.
IMPORTANT NOTE: Before you even do this step, it’s important to check in with your inner self to see if the task you think you have to do is even something that is in alignment with your inner self and your big vision/goals. Sometimes, something doesn’t feel good because it truly is out of alignment with our inner selves, and other times, it doesn’t feel good purely because of the fear of the unknown. It’s important to distinguish between the two.
If you’re not used to checking in with your inner self yet, you can try asking yourself, “Am I forcing myself to do this thing I don’t want to do out of fear or am I doing it because it will actually move me closer to my grand vision?’
To learn more about checking in with your inner self, visit this post. (I have been replacing “future self” with inner self lately, and they can be used interchangeably, but I encourage you to take the time to figure out which one resonates with you more.)
Step 2: Know your inner self’s core values.
In my Clarity for Freedom Challenge last week, I taught the group how to better take stock of their core values. And not the core values of the mind, which tends to gravitate towards what the mind thinks our core values should be. We learned how to connect with and listen to our inner selves to hear his/her core values instead.
You can do this a few different ways.
If you are someone who doesn’t connect regularly to your inner self, do the following exercise below:
Write a previous job you’ve held or a project you’ve completed. Write the first one that comes to mind.
Free-write all the things you liked about the job. (Free-write just means brain dump, or write with abandon and without editing anything.)
Free-write all the things you didn’t like about the job.
Write down a favorite memory you have. (If you can’t recall one, that’s ok).
Repeat this process with two other jobs. There’s no need to think too hard about picking the “right” job to write about - just let the first one that comes to mind be the right one because that’s the one your subconscious mind is telling you to explore.
Take a look at the lists and see if there are any common themes. If the common theme is in the form of “I hated” or “Not ___,” see if you can turn it around to something that you actually do like or enjoy. This list of common themes of what you enjoyed are your inner self’s core values.
If you are someone who connects regularly to your inner self, you can do this one below:
Tap into your inner self. Be open to receiving his/her answers. You know your inner self is the one answering when the answers are clear, concise, simple, and peaceful.
Ask your inner self to show you what his/her core values are.
Step 3: Rewrite the task you don’t want to do to reflect your inner self’s core values - “I want/choose to do (insert task) in order to express (insert core values).”
For example, if the task you’re really dreading is “I have to do a Facebook live,” and your core values are “Freedom, Creativity, and Connecting with People,” you can rewrite the task as, “I want/choose to do a Facebook live in order to connect with my audience and express my creativity. I’m also going to allow myself to be free to express whoever I am and/or want to be.”
So what you’re doing here is shifting your perspective so that the thing you don’t want to do, which feels out of alignment with your inner self, becomes something that actually is in alignment with your inner self and therefore feels great to do instead.
And guys, this is what business development really is all about. It’s about personal development, and personal development is all about shifting perspectives. In order to be successful in our businesses, we have to feel successful, think successful thoughts, and take successful actions RIGHT NOW.
If you wait until you’re successful to feel that way, you’re going to be waiting a loooonggg time!
Give this a shot and then come on over to our Facebook group to tell us about your experience. We are running the Free to Impact Masterclass Series this week as well, to learn how to better connect with our inner selves and move past the fears and doubts that stop us from trusting that voice and following through with fearless action. Click below to register!