When willpower and "mindset" work do NOT work.
Hi my beautiful friends! I've been hearing this a LOT lately:
"I KNOW what I have to do. I KNOW all the things. I KNOW the Law of Attraction.
And I KNOW I just need to follow those principles and (for example) quit my job and say to hell with everyone's judgment, but for some reason, I just CAN'T! Every time I think I have the guts to do it, something stops me!”
I used to think this was a willpower issue. I think most of us are taught this...by like everyone. Parents, teachers, friends. "C’mon, you can do it. Put your fears aside and go for it!”
I mean, we even talk to our own friends this way when we’re trying to motivate or encourage them to do something they want to do but feel scared about.
For example, your friend is feeling burnt out at work but has an ok relationship with her boss. So you tell her something like, “Ok, just talk to your boss – tell her how burnt out you’ve been feeling and see if she can do anything to help. Otherwise you’re just going to end up getting more burnt out!”
Sometimes, our friends listen, and sometimes they don’t. It’s the ones who keep coming to us with the same issues but never do what we kindly suggest them to who frustrate the hell out of us.
And when we see this pattern in ourselves, we get even more frustrated!
The "just do it!" method tends to trigger shame and guilt.
And the problem with this “just put your fears aside” mentality is that when we try and try and are unable to "just do it" (like Nike, haha), we feel so much SHAME and GUILT! We feel like we’re not trying hard enough.
And this space tends to spin us further into a rabbit hole of more shame and guilt, and before long, we're sitting on the couch eating fries and binging Netflix all day!
I've totally been here myself. In fact, this was me just one year ago. I was working in a job I no longer enjoyed while still trying to get my own business off the ground.
But even though I worked hard on all the mindset strategies, I couldn’t bring myself to “get over” my fear of failure and market my business so that I could quit my job.
I ended up staying at that job for 1.5 more years than I wanted. All because I couldn’t (in Gary V’s voice) “get over” my fear. I spent countless hours Netflixing in order to numb the guilt and shame I felt.
I couldn't figure out what was wrong.
Until I learned about the mind and how it works, got the help I really needed, and lifted that huge weight of shame and guilt that had been sitting on my shoulders for most of my life.
Using mindset strategies to heal subconscious beliefs is like using Tylenol to heal a shattered bone. It'll mask the pain symptoms but it doesn't help your bones heal and you'll probably end up using that Tylenol for the rest of your life.
When you're using mindset strategies, you're using your conscious mind and essentially willpower. But if the real issues lie deeper than the conscious mind, in your SUBconscious mind, these mindset strategies (or any other strategy in which you're utilizing only your conscious mind) will not work in the long run.
You will be able to hide the symptoms for a bit of time, but when you get burnt out from "working on your mindset, you'll fall into the shame/guilt/Netflixing hole again.
The reason why willpower and mindset strategies don't work for deeper issues is because conscious thought only makes up a measly 10% of our minds!
The other 90% of our daily thought and feeling patterns are governed by the SUBconscious mind!
Which means you're not even consciously aware of these patterns AND make a HUGE impact on your life!
So if you've tried and tried to do something and you still haven't been able to do it, that's a MAJOR clue that the issue lies in the subconscious mind.
There are many therapies and modalities out there that work on healing the subconscious mind. Rapid Transformational Therapy (RTT), a system of hypnotherapy, is the one therapy that made the biggest and fastest impact on me.
I went from averaging one client a year for three years to 10 clients in one week after my RTT session. In addition to this very tangible result, I also felt FREE. Like a huge weight had been lifted. I didn't even REALIZE how much fear was weighing me down and making me STRUGGLE to make my life and business work.
For me, my main subconscious false beliefs that impacted everything in my life was:
I need to play small because being large is dangerous/unsafe.
I'm too loud, too passionate - it's not ok for me to be myself.
If you were to ask me if I believe these statements to be true, I would say, "Hell no!" I KNOW on a conscious level that I am loved, enough, worthy, deserving, and perfect just the way I am. But apparently on a subconscious belief, this is what was going on for me.
So of course I wasn't seeing the results I wanted in my physical reality. My beliefs weren't even aligned. But after this RTT session, those old beliefs were lifted and what resulted was an alignment between my conscious and subconscious beliefs. And this meant that my thoughts and feelings were finally aligned. And that meant that taking massively aligned actions were so much easier!
So if you're someone who knows what she has to do but are struggling with actually doing it, you don't have to struggle any longer!
Conscious solutions, like any kind of mindset work, do eventually work in shifting your subconscious mind, but they take a LOOONNGGG time. And sometimes countless dollars on traditional talk therapy or meditation retreats.
Again, willpower is NOT the (only) solution. Especially if you’ve noticed any ongoing cycles of intense motivation followed by periods of intense struggle in your life. Whether you try and never actually take action to taking action and never being able to maintain the changes, it’s the subconscious mind that requires healing.
Let’s get together and figure out what your subconscious block is and HEAL IT already so you can be the FREE, CONFIDENT, POWERFUL WOMAN that you are TODAY!!
Please go to jessicamaytang.com/rtt to see how Rapid Transformational Therapy can help you!!